Grandma (dad’s side) called trying to convince mom to take the house that dad offers, house that already has down payment but need us to get bank loan and pay monthly installment which we don’t want. (Grandma has always been the middle person, a spokesman between dad and us when comes to big big problems.)
- Mom going to retire in few more years, then where will she get the income to pay the house loan? Mom don’t want unnecessary burden / stress anymore.
- I’m not sure how long I will be in
Chinese saying, “if you don’t have a head that big, don’t try to wear a hat that big”. Meaning, if you think you can’t afford it, then don’t take it.
But grandma keeps on convincing mom and they talk on the phone for more than ½ an hour, mom is sick, having fever some more, grandma is a very good talker, she can talk till you have no words to say. Poor mom has to say no, no, no.
My relatives, all the Cham’s members had a meeting about this matter, so all my uncles and aunties agree that it is a good thing if we can take the house, can live in a bigger house (so-called). They said, sell our current house and take that money to put it into the new house. They think of everything for us. But guess what? The most frightening one was, they want us to take care of grandma and grandpa (finally grandma mention this saying if we take the big house, then grandpa and her will stay with us).
Listen here, not that we don’t want to take care of old people, we (mom, sis, me and bro) are someone who love / honour old people very much. Obviously we wish to stay with grandma and grandpa coz they loved us very much but come to think about it, uncles and aunties are trying to push their responsibility of taking care of the old man to us! That’s why I said, they think of everything for us. And they said, it is good if we can have the big house. Now I know why…
Mom told me, she is getting more and more frightened when comes to think of what grandma said and think of how my relatives plans all this, there are always some motives behind it. Sad and scary!
If I’m not mistaken, our family crisis no. 1 was about 2 years back where by the Cham’s members thought of a good plan (so-called), asking us to sell our current house and buy 1 of my uncle’s house coz he is broke, he needed money, so asked us to buy his house, reason that they gave us: that place is nearer to grandma’s house! If we buy that house, we need to take bank loan too, so need to pay monthly installment (which we don’t need for our current house). Sad and scary!
Whatever they think of normally is for their benefits… how can they treat us like this? Are we too kind for them to bully? Bullying a single parent’s family! Hate this! That’s why we really need God’s wisdom. Thank God mom has great wisdom.
“Lord, take care of us, please.”
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